How to Be You: Stop trying to be someone else and start living your life
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- Author：Jeffrey Marsh
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Summary
'Earth-shatteringly brilliant， Jeffrey will soothe your soul' Bustle
Too short？ Too weird？ Too quiet？ Not true。 Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are。
Lighting the path to self-acceptance and self-compassion， Jeffrey Marsh helps you discover patterns in your life that may be holding you back。 In this interactive workbook， Jeffrey shares wisdom gleaned from their own experience 'growing up fabulous in a small farming town' before they knew they were queer and non-binary， and offers inspiring stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race， age and gender to help you discover that you are not alone。
With workbook pages and colouring charts to help you on your journey， How to Be You speaks to everyone who feels like they don't belong。 Jeffrey shows you how to deepen your relationship with yourself and find the courage to be the amazing person you already are。
Too short？ Too weird？ Too quiet？ Not true。 Let internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are。
Lighting the path to self-acceptance and self-compassion， Jeffrey Marsh helps you discover patterns in your life that may be holding you back。 In this interactive workbook， Jeffrey shares wisdom gleaned from their own experience 'growing up fabulous in a small farming town' before they knew they were queer and non-binary， and offers inspiring stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race， age and gender to help you discover that you are not alone。
With workbook pages and colouring charts to help you on your journey， How to Be You speaks to everyone who feels like they don't belong。 Jeffrey shows you how to deepen your relationship with yourself and find the courage to be the amazing person you already are。
Reviews
SpaceyStacey
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I adore Jeffrey and was delighted to read their book。 This would be ideal for a young queer person。
Nic
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I love Jeffrey。 I started following them on instagram and then realized they had written a book。 I listened to the audio version！ it was so great to hear their voice:） definitely recommend！！ Learned a lot and also got to listen to some similar ideas I'd heard before but in a different way。 I feel like I've done a healing session in just a few hours of reading。 I love Jeffrey。 I started following them on instagram and then realized they had written a book。 I listened to the audio version！ it was so great to hear their voice:） definitely recommend！！ Learned a lot and also got to listen to some similar ideas I'd heard before but in a different way。 I feel like I've done a healing session in just a few hours of reading。 。。。more
Samantha
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I learned so much listening to this lovely book。 The book is filled with love and kindness。
Rayna
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This book feels like a warm hug。 I’ve followed Jeffery on Instagram for a while now and I just love them and everything they put out into the world。 This book is perfect for kids， teenagers， and adults of any age。 I especially love the sections on fear， bullying， and giving up control。
Danny
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A lovely， kind book that speaks healing to the reader。 I will revisit it。
Peter Kahn
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I cannot recommend this more strongly。 This was the most important read of 2021 for me。 It allowed me to see myself in a different light: I can’t be fixed because nothing is broken。 That’s just the start of the wisdom in this book。
Magico Of A Cowgirl
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Meh。 Targeted for a younger audience and more of an autobiographical account of their youth。 I do love Jeffrey’s videos though and find those more helpful than this book。
Sb
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Fantastic book。 So much love and wisdom
Lilly Pittman
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This book could also be titled "How to Become An Emotionally Healthy Adult。" It is reminiscent of Glennon Doyle's "Untamed，" although it admittedly tells fewer stories。 Very good。 It names so many limiting beliefs and offers practical， embodied suggestions for self-acceptance。 It is written from a very relativistic point of view， which is neither good nor bad， just something to be aware of。 I also think Marsh still has a lot of work to do personally around religious trauma。 I wish someone could This book could also be titled "How to Become An Emotionally Healthy Adult。" It is reminiscent of Glennon Doyle's "Untamed，" although it admittedly tells fewer stories。 Very good。 It names so many limiting beliefs and offers practical， embodied suggestions for self-acceptance。 It is written from a very relativistic point of view， which is neither good nor bad， just something to be aware of。 I also think Marsh still has a lot of work to do personally around religious trauma。 I wish someone could tell him that the Christian God isn't someone that wants you to "pray the gay away，" but is colorful and exists outside of gender and binaries。 。。。more
Ron Popp
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For such a slim book there is a lot of helpful information presented in an engrossing way
Ruby
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Beautiful bonk by a beautiful person。 Jeffrey has a gift。 I have been listening to the audiobook and it has really soothes me through a pretty difficult time。 Thanks Jeffrey。 You are a true gift to the world。
SaraJean
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I love them。
Elisa
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It feels like this book is intended for a younger reader but there are still good takeaways and reminders for everyone。
Marcy Usalis
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The author tells stories from their life and paints them often with an idyllic brush。 I found their story interesting and relatable but the story telling lacked pacing which caused much of the book to feel flat。 There are many bits of wisdom and passages that resonated with me but are not particularly memorable in the specificity of them but rather in the general thesis which is to love yourself。 I would consider this in the general realm of self help and while the author's life experience was i The author tells stories from their life and paints them often with an idyllic brush。 I found their story interesting and relatable but the story telling lacked pacing which caused much of the book to feel flat。 There are many bits of wisdom and passages that resonated with me but are not particularly memorable in the specificity of them but rather in the general thesis which is to love yourself。 I would consider this in the general realm of self help and while the author's life experience was interesting， the lessons shared often felt rehashed。 Nevertheless， this book is overall positive and enjoyable。 。。。more
Tasha
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I bought this book because it was written by the lovely and wonderful Jeffrey Marsh， who I love very deeply。 And they narrated their own audiobook， which was awesome， so I decided to absorb it in this format。 Here's some of my favourite takeaways:1。 In a world where we are obsessed with "knowing ourselves"， how fun and exciting is it if we actually don't know who we are？ There's plenty of room for adventure and self-discovery along the way。 And if we're never certain， we're less likely to get bo I bought this book because it was written by the lovely and wonderful Jeffrey Marsh， who I love very deeply。 And they narrated their own audiobook， which was awesome， so I decided to absorb it in this format。 Here's some of my favourite takeaways:1。 In a world where we are obsessed with "knowing ourselves"， how fun and exciting is it if we actually don't know who we are？ There's plenty of room for adventure and self-discovery along the way。 And if we're never certain， we're less likely to get boxed in somewhere we don't want to be。2。 Feeling bad about ourselves not only， well， makes us feel bad， but it's also actually not very productive and can in fact prevent learning and personal growth。 When we're busy feeling guilt and shame， we're not actually focused on what we could be learning from a given situation。 This seems like a given， but I hadn't given it much thought before they put it into perspective in this way。3。 "We are trained， we think we see so much evidence， about how awful we are。" Being willing to train yourself to see your own goodness is essential to moving forward as a person and enacting positive change within ourselves and in the world。 Yes， we'll screw it up。 This doesn't make us bad or unworthy， so we need to just refuse to feel bad about it， learn from it， and move on。 4。 All Jeffrey's personal anecdotes and stories about growing up as a sparkling， gender-delightful little kid whose shine people constantly tried to dull， and becoming the sparkling， gender-delightful adult they are today。 Highly recommend！！ 。。。more
Wren Slaven
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I really liked the memoir element。 Chapter 8's "Just stop feeling bad！" was kind of a let down but I don't think there's any answer that's much better。 The book definitely had a nice message and a few really good points， and challenged assumptions I'd never considered before。 Maybe a lot more useful for teens， though。 I really liked the memoir element。 Chapter 8's "Just stop feeling bad！" was kind of a let down but I don't think there's any answer that's much better。 The book definitely had a nice message and a few really good points， and challenged assumptions I'd never considered before。 Maybe a lot more useful for teens， though。 。。。more
The Voracious Bibliophile
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I have followed Jeffrey Marsh on Twitter for years。 Before I found a therapist， before I got on medication for my anxiety and depression， their videos helped me to be able to take a breath and center myself so I could get through the day。 I’m sure I’m not the only person whose life has been impacted by them in this way， but I will forever be grateful for their calm voice affirming my place in the world over and over again until I started to believe it for myself。How to Be You is the self-love ma I have followed Jeffrey Marsh on Twitter for years。 Before I found a therapist， before I got on medication for my anxiety and depression， their videos helped me to be able to take a breath and center myself so I could get through the day。 I’m sure I’m not the only person whose life has been impacted by them in this way， but I will forever be grateful for their calm voice affirming my place in the world over and over again until I started to believe it for myself。How to Be You is the self-love manifesto that everyone in the world needs to read， but it is especially essential for those of us in the LGBTQ+ community。 We live in a world that is often hostile to us， a world that bullies， beats， threatens， harasses， disenfranchises， and belittles us to the point of fracture， to the point where our very existence is seen as a threat to the standing order。 Jeffrey’s assertion throughout their book is that it is our choice whether or not we are going to capitulate to the people who would make us smaller。 We can be expansive or we can shrink。 We can grow and learn and change and accept ourselves in all of our glorious complexity or we can draw lines of demarcation around ourselves and always exist as less than our true selves。I’m not going to lie， a lot of the self-help material circulating in the world today is worthless pablum at best and an avaricious money-grabbing scheme at worst， but Jeffrey Marsh is the real deal。 Their work comes from a deep place of understanding what it feels like to be marginalized and maligned for being queer， and I am so grateful for their existence。 I am grateful for this book’s existence。 Thank you， Jeffrey。 A thousand times， thank you。This review also appears on my blog The Voracious Bibliophile at https://thevoraciousbibliophile。com。 。。。more
Alaine
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This was a feelings book and I just wasn't into a feelings book at the time of listening。 I checked it out from the library twice but only got halfway through。 I love Jeffrey Marsh but that doesn't mean their book is for me。 This was a feelings book and I just wasn't into a feelings book at the time of listening。 I checked it out from the library twice but only got halfway through。 I love Jeffrey Marsh but that doesn't mean their book is for me。 。。。more
Rebecca Waring-Crane
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Thank you， Jeffrey。 If you're reading this， I'd love to collaborate sometime。And thanks to my dear friend Laurel who shared the book with me。Original voice， personal story， and inviting tone set this "how to" apart。 Wisdom and insight on every page。 I took it slow to savor the goodness。 Thank you， Jeffrey。 If you're reading this， I'd love to collaborate sometime。And thanks to my dear friend Laurel who shared the book with me。Original voice， personal story， and inviting tone set this "how to" apart。 Wisdom and insight on every page。 I took it slow to savor the goodness。 。。。more
Jérémy
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J'ai découvert Jeffrey Marsh， il n'y a pas si longtemps， mais j'ai adoré son contenu et sa personnalité！ Quand j'ai vu qu'iel avait écrit un livre， je l'ai commandé et je l'ai adoré 📚 Le ton sans culpabilité de ce livre est tellement libérateur 😌 Plus j'avançais dans ma lecture plus je me sentais bien， plus mon discours intérieur devenais positif， ce que je veux dire par là c'est que j'essayais de plus en plus d'éliminer les paroles blessantes que je disais à mon égard。 Les petits exercices m'on J'ai découvert Jeffrey Marsh， il n'y a pas si longtemps， mais j'ai adoré son contenu et sa personnalité！ Quand j'ai vu qu'iel avait écrit un livre， je l'ai commandé et je l'ai adoré 📚 Le ton sans culpabilité de ce livre est tellement libérateur 😌 Plus j'avançais dans ma lecture plus je me sentais bien， plus mon discours intérieur devenais positif， ce que je veux dire par là c'est que j'essayais de plus en plus d'éliminer les paroles blessantes que je disais à mon égard。 Les petits exercices m'ont fait découvrir des parties de moi que je n'avais jamais laissé ressortir par peur ou pas jugement 💕 Je recommande grandement ce livre， ainsi que le compte instagram de Jeffrey Marsh à tous les intéressés 🤗 。。。more
Highland Hedgewitch
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Jeffrey your book is great and I'm straight 🎶This book taught me so much about being non binary， trans and gay， but in addition to that it taught me about me！ It spoke to the me I'd been suppressing inside because she was 'too much' or not 'normal'。 I am 51 and I can wear what I like， and hold my head up high。 Thank you。I love your social media content， keep being magical。 Jeffrey your book is great and I'm straight 🎶This book taught me so much about being non binary， trans and gay， but in addition to that it taught me about me！ It spoke to the me I'd been suppressing inside because she was 'too much' or not 'normal'。 I am 51 and I can wear what I like， and hold my head up high。 Thank you。I love your social media content， keep being magical。 。。。more
Kerry Campbell
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One of the most important voices of our time。 Soak up every word offered to us！ Provides opportunities again and again for us to learn。 To heal。
Kimberly
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What a beautiful love letter of a book。 Simple and profound ways to learn to love yourself and be you。
Larissa
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Love， love， love。
Amyrah Eliza
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Great book on doing the internal work needed to start expressing who YOU are。 Highly recommend。 👌
Heather McKelvie
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This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it， click here。 I listened to the audiobook because I follow Jeffrey on Instagram and love their content。 I didn’t realize until partway into the book that the target audience was YA， but I kept listening anyway。 As someone who’s listened to or read a ton of self help stuff， I didn’t expect to hear anything new or groundbreaking， but there were two parts that stuck with me。 The first was the way of looking at “haters” or bullies and realizing the WHY behind their behavior。 I liked how Jeffrey said that haters I listened to the audiobook because I follow Jeffrey on Instagram and love their content。 I didn’t realize until partway into the book that the target audience was YA， but I kept listening anyway。 As someone who’s listened to or read a ton of self help stuff， I didn’t expect to hear anything new or groundbreaking， but there were two parts that stuck with me。 The first was the way of looking at “haters” or bullies and realizing the WHY behind their behavior。 I liked how Jeffrey said that haters hate because something about you reminds them of something about themselves that they don’t like or are too afraid to admit or embrace about themselves。 The other thing they said that I freakin WISH someone had told me when I was a teen was that you don’t have to decide or know what you want to do for the rest of your life。 Just live your life and do what you enjoy， rather than try to press yourself into the mold。 （I’m summarizing from what I remember a few days after reading this）。 Essentially， I wish this book had existed and that I had read it as a teen or young 20-something。 I spent a lot of my early life trying to be what I thought other people wanted me to be。 I think getting these messages early on would have been so helpful。 One complaint I have about the book was the number of times Jeffrey used the word crazy。 It’s a word I’ve used a lot in my life， but lately have tried to move away from as I’ve learned that it’s an ableist term。 I’ve taken to substitute it with “wild”。 Maybe an edit to consider in the next edition of the book。 :） 。。。more
Unique
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more of a general self help book - if you're looking for something specifically about trans/queer stuff would recommend you and your gender identity or similar books more of a general self help book - if you're looking for something specifically about trans/queer stuff would recommend you and your gender identity or similar books 。。。more
Bren
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Simple， short， sweet。 I discovered Jeffrey on Instagram， and absolutely LOVE their posts。 When I heard about their book， honestly- I wanted to purchase it mostly to support them！ I had a feeling the book would share much of what I have already learned， but that's only b/c I am 47 now。 Still， it was comforting to hear Jeffrey's wisdom nonetheless， and we all have room to grow no matter what age。 Definitely a great gift for younger people in the throws of their self discovery， and intent to create Simple， short， sweet。 I discovered Jeffrey on Instagram， and absolutely LOVE their posts。 When I heard about their book， honestly- I wanted to purchase it mostly to support them！ I had a feeling the book would share much of what I have already learned， but that's only b/c I am 47 now。 Still， it was comforting to hear Jeffrey's wisdom nonetheless， and we all have room to grow no matter what age。 Definitely a great gift for younger people in the throws of their self discovery， and intent to create boundaries and live in a healthy relationship with self and others。 Jeffrey does a great job at reframing things we have heard and taken as shameful， or critical， and seeing all along the truth of our inner strength， and our deservedness of love and acceptance， and that much of our identities， and descriptive adjectives are okay， not bad。 It is a great explanation of how being ourselves outside of social constructs and expectations is so important。 How our greatest "flaws" just might be our greatest source of power （from Chapter 2）。 This book is a great supplement to any of us on a healing journey。 And aren't we always on that journey at some level？ I'm so grateful for Jeffrey and their voice and love in this world！ 。。。more
Heather
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Listened to this one on Audible because I love their voice！ If you think this book is just for queer people， let me disabuse you of that assumption。 This is a lovely book that can help ANY human shake off the shame and restrictions that we have grown up to think of as normal。 One suggestion that is incredibly radical AND true 。。。 is that it’s ok to make a mistake and then *not feel bad about it*。 Your feeling about the mistake has no bearing on if you’ll make that same mistake again。
Hope
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